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Dec. 4th, 2012

One thing I love about Facebook is the ability to keep track of people's lives from afar. But what I hate is the way that Facebook seems to arbitrarily decide what to show you and what not to. I've seen innumerable drunk posts and re-shares and melodramatic whinings on Facebook, but I've missed things like announcements of pregnancies, big moves, weddings... and death.

Last night, on my first break from work, I was poking around on Facebook and saw a screencap post, which led me to the shocking realisation that one of the guys I went to school with, made music with in orchestra... died last week. What's more, he died after a surgery related to injuries that came from a brutal attack -- which apparently, from what I can tell, happened in July. I guess Facebook didn't think that was important enough for me to see, either. I don't know the details of what happened to Andre in Atlanta. If I were to take a guess, I might consider the possibility of it having been a gay-bashing. When I reconnected with him on Facebook for the first time since high school, I found that he'd recently come out. (There's a lot of us who waited until after high school to come out, even though there was one out and proud gay guy all through high school that nobody had a problem with. I imagine we all had more concern about our families and what they would think.)

I don't know what else it could possibly have been. Anyone who knew Andre knows that he was one of the kindest people anyone could ever hope to meet. I can't even imagine him having an enemy. It breaks my heart to know he's just gone. At barely 32 years old.

His grandfather passed away the same day. The family seems to find some comfort in this. I know they need every bit of it they can find.


Andre, I don't know exactly what happened, but I hope they at least know who did this to you, and I hope beyond hope that they get you justice.





Andre Lynn Breeding, Jr.
11/14/1980-11/26/2012
R.I.P.

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mountain_hiker
Dec. 4th, 2012 03:15 pm (UTC)
That's horrible. :(
jamijo
Dec. 4th, 2012 11:19 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
parathalyn
Dec. 5th, 2012 11:05 pm (UTC)
Andre died.... Wow. That's horrible!

I have no clue what happened to him. I usually don't hear much about things going on in MI or from old high school friends. Facebook is still hiding many of my friend's posts from my newsfeed, so I have to go to people's pages every few days to find out what is going on. Very annoying.
sarcastro
Dec. 6th, 2012 09:18 am (UTC)
See, I knew if I didn't mention it a couple different places, there would likely be at least one other person who had no clue. I hate that about Facebook so much. I found out my "pseudo-ex" was gonna be an uncle because both of his sisters were pregnant -- approximately three months in. And it was because someone else commented on something relating to that topic. I think if jamijo hadn't told me herself that she was pregnant, I would've found out very late... I didn't find out leanasidhe had died until roughly a year later... Another friend back home lost his mother, which I did catch, but I missed until several months later that his twin brother passed away within the same week...

Facebook has a potential of making people easier to keep up with, but instead it often makes me feel like I'm a bad friend...
parathalyn
Dec. 6th, 2012 03:24 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I've missed more than a couple things that were announced on FB. A few friends have also told me that they never see my posts (making people think that I don't post, when I usually post daily). So, I don't get to annoyed when a week go by with no comments. I just blame FB.
serzy
Dec. 7th, 2012 02:47 am (UTC)
Jesus :(
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